“Now I see the past with some clarity / Glad I took my ass to some therapy," sings Sammus on her new single. Among a million songs about heartbreak and sadness, it’s rare to hear one that speaks so honestly about the importance of reaching out for help.
The 29-year-old mother was murdered after she rebuffed a stranger's advances in a bar. That tragic story reminds me how often people feel entitled to my body. Even friends sometimes deny my selfhood by saying they wish I wasn't a lesbian, so they could date me.