Why Aren't You Married? Answer Coming Soon to ABC!

Ugh. Remember Tracy McMillan's Huffington Post article from earlier this year, "Why You're Not Married"? The one that was designed to piss you off and calls unmarried women shallow, slutty, selfish lying bitches who aren't good enough? Yeah. Well not only did someone at Random House find it so compelling they're turning it into a book, now it's an ABC sitcom too.

women in bridal gowns running toward a finish line
Totally worth making into a sitcom.

TV has taken a turn for the outrageously sexist and unoriginal lately, but turning a controversial, jerkish, reductive blog post into a single-camera sitcom series signifies a new low. Single women should be shamed into marriage yet simultaneously deemed unweddable! Single men can't commit yet simultaneously would looove to settle down if only women were good enough!

At the risk of sounding all finger waggy, it irks me that someone who wrote a deliberately inflammatory and mean-spirited article in the interest of page views (and ladybashing) is now raking in the book and TV deals. It only paves the way for the next d-bag with a sexist idea and an Internet connection, and we have enough of those already.

by Kelsey Wallace
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Gross. I just read the

Gross. I just read the article, having not seen (or missed!) it previously. Am I really meant to take marriage advice from someone with three failed marriages under her belt? If I had known it was about quantity and not quality, then I'm sure I could have been hitched and ditched multiple times already too.

I love that column! I

I love that column! I definitely agree that I would rather get relationship advice from John Cheese (although my girlfriend did give me a strange look when I told her I was getting advice from Cracked.com).

Ah, the rantings of the

Ah, the rantings of the youthful feminista. It's difficult to take this topic seriously until eggs have gone past by their sell-by date. By the time you're 40, it's "Marriage is the best thing EVER, I was so naive", or "Kids are for sheep", or "Why can't I find a man?", which may or may not be accompanied by a longing for children. It turns out that what many budding feminists really want to be when they grow up is soccer moms. The intersection of single, unmarried, 40, childless, and bitchingly happy about it is a vanishingly small cohort, but unashamedly living the courage of their convictions without an ounce of remorse does them credit indeed.

No offense, Soccer Moms

Hi Elder Gal,

My problem with this new sitcom is the offensive, sexist, reductive tone of McMillan's article (which I can only assume will carry over to the TV show), not that many women want to get married. Of course you can be a soccer mom and a feminist, just like you can be childless and be a feminist.

What you none of us needs, though, is someone on TV calling us slutty bitches who aren't good enough, no matter who we are or what choices we make.

The Truth Comes Out

I don't know where that picture came from, but I kind of want to pwn the short-shorts world by running a marathon in a wedding dress. The article, however, reads as inherently anti-marriage I think. I too missed it the first time around, but I got the vibe that far from analyzing "what women want", this article is really her opinion of marriage. And three times isn't enough to speak about the whole institution, thanks. It seemed self-centered and over-compensating for a happiness some other people have in marriage, and there's a difference between being critical and just being mean. I don't think she really identifies with the women out there getting older and reevaluating their standpoint in the dating/marriage arena. I think she named herself their champion because she couldn't champion being married. In any case, it is offensive to characterize all single women in such way--and putting it on TV is really heartless.

Considering the huge success

Considering the huge success of Vh1's "Tough Love", Bravo's "Millionaire Matchmaker", and Vh1's latest "Why Am I Still Single", this pathetic show is just the next logical step. I'm not sure which "irks" me more: that this is going to be a show, or that there will be thousands of people clamoring to watch it premiere.

I just read the HuffPo

I just read the HuffPo article -- I was assuming the journalist's assertion that it "calls unmarried women shallow, slutty, selfish lying bitches who aren't good enough" was paraphrasing. No such luck. It seriously has six numbered points, each labeled with one of those accusations.

Even more annoying than the idea that it's all on the woman to grow up and stop being a sex-addicted loser are the repeated statements about what a "good wife" thinks and does. "A good wife, even a halfway decent one, does not spend most of her day thinking about herself" ... "working around a man's fear and insecurity is big part of what you'll be doing as a wife" ... "teenage girls are never happy. And they never feel like cooking, either." That last one doesn't have the word "wife" in it, but the implication, of course, is that a good wife cooks. My man makes me dinner every night and neither of us would be happy if that wasn't the case. I have zero interest in being a good wife, although I'm happy to be part of a loving partnership.

I guess what it comes down to is that her whole article is based on harmful gender role enforcement. For men marriage means "sacrificing their most treasured possession -- a free-agent penis" and for women "it's the culmination of a [universal] princess fantasy"? I don't think so. That's the kind of thinking that leads to a woman lamenting her unmarried status in the first place. We do not need a TV based on this drivel.

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